Let’s face it, after being in a relationship for a while, sometimes couples can get lazy about initiating sex. Everyone can probably relate to initiating through a not-so-subtle grope or a casual “It’s been a while. Want to fuck?” But we’re here to help you ask for sex in a way that is more personal and more exciting. Here are some tips for extending a sexy invitation to the bedroom.
- Think about what’s worked before
Every couple has their own idiosyncrasies. Try to remember how the good sex you’ve had in the past was initiated to find inspiration. Were you laughing and flirting? Was it slow and sensual? Knowing what types of situations gets you both in the mood will help you figure out how and when to ask. - Help your partner relax
Some people need more time to unwind and get into a relaxed head space before they want to go at it. Help your partner get in the mood by asking what you can do to take care of them tonight or to take something off their plate. This will help free up their mind for sexier thoughts. - Get some of that intensity back
When you first start dating someone, the sex is passionate and super hot. But after a while, some of that intensity can fade. Try to get back some of those spontaneous, super sexy times by recreating them. Or you can turn up the heat by saying things that are very sexually direct: “I need to have you right now.” - Be playful
Sometimes playfully initiating sex is a great way to relax and have fun. Send each other silly sexts, or make sexual bets while watching sports (If the Dodgers win, I’ll give you a blowjob later). Keep it light but flirtatious.
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