The Internet Weighs In On What Makes Someone Great at Sex

BuzzFeed recently asked their readers an important and often debated question: what makes someone great at sex? And from that seemingly simple question, BuzzFeed compiled the answers into a list called “21 Sex Tips That Aren’t Bullshit.” They insist that the list is NOT “a rolodex of sex positions, above-average genitalia, or decades of experience,” but rather an honest response from real, sexual humans on what they value from someone who is very good in bed. Here are some highlights (check out the full list, complete with sexy/silly gifs, below):

1. Worshipping someone’s body
   Treating someone’s body as the best thing you have ever experienced is perhaps the ultimate indicator of how good you are in bed.
2. Speaking up during sex
   Someone who’s willing to tell you what they like and dislike or what feels amazing is definitely a turn on!
3. Being honest about orgasms
   The internet’s advice: stop faking orgasms! One woman says instead of faking it, “Mov[e] your hips or guid[e] them with your hand or moans [to] turn them into great lovers…” Great advice!
4. Sharing a kink
   Kink is sexy—why not let your partner in on yours?!
5. Focus on the pleasure, not the end-goal
   Taking the pressure off of cumming really allows you to just focus on the pleasure and enjoy yourself in the moment.
6. Taking your time
   Don’t rush the foreplay! Have fun and don’t forget all the steps that lead up to the amazing main event: lip biting, earlobe nibbling, grinding—the possibilities are endless!
7. Being up for anything
   “Being open-minded to trying new things but also knowing the definitive boundaries for each person.” —Alexis Ferguson (Facebook)

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Check out BuzzFeed’s “21 Sex Tips That Aren’t Bullshit”