It’s really quite simple: to have better orgasms with someone else, you should start by having them by yourself. That’s because figuring out your own self pleasure can help you instruct others how to get you off. Here’s how:
- Train your clit to be more responsive
By masturbating, you’re actually “training” your clitoris to respond to different types of stimulation. The more practice you get exposing your clit to different sensations, the easier it will be to get off with your partner. When masturbating, try switching up the strokes, the amount of speed or pressure, different positions, and the number of fingers you use. Learning new ways to pleasure yourself is key to keeping it fresh and fun with a partner. - Show your partner what you like
Truly, the best way to get what you like from a partner is by showing them yourself. Try masturbating in front of them—it’ll be instructional and fun to watch! After going solo for a bit, have them put their hand over yours so they can see what you like. When they get a feel for what gets you hot, try tag-teaming your clit for a while, switching off hands every few minutes. - During sex, give yourself a hand
Ain’t nothing wrong with giving yourself what you like during sex. Often that involves stimulating your clit with your fingers or with a vibrator during the act. This is especially easy to do in certain positions, like doggy style or woman on top.
In the mood for some self pleasure yourself? We’re always here to lend a helping hand!
Check out more tips about how masturbating can help you orgasm with a partner here.