Phone Sex Insights: What do people talk about

With its uninhibited free-form expression of pure desires, phone sex is a live-wire connection to the human psyche. By tapping into this live wire, we find fascinating and entertaining stories about human sexuality, imagination, and desire. Since Niteflirt is the largest, most active phone sex community in the world, our members are a treasure trove of such stories. We’ve asked select members of our Flirt community to share some of them, while keeping callers’ identities private of course.

Last time, we looked at interesting situations. Today we are exploring:

What exactly do your phone sex customers like to talk about?
“My customers love to hear about my experiences with BDSM, and they love it when I make them confess the dark little secrets. But I must say they also like to talk about their day, their work and what they do for fun.” — Wicked Elizabeth

“They like to talk about their lives, their married life, sex life, or they plain want to have a girl who will give them a blow job without them having to beg it from their wives.” — Kiwi Candy

“ME!! most guys wanna know about me, what I like, how I live, and am I married, but honestly, they don’t really wanna talk a lot they wanna get off, so i ask them what kind of mood they are in, to get a feel of where it is going.” — erotica6969

“It runs the gamut! Role play, sexuality in general, stockings and pantyhose and other silky fetish materials, mutual masturbation, tease and denial, orgasm control, seduction, dominance and submission, spankings, cuckolding, sex work (from a fantasy standpoint or a realistic one, sometimes both in the same call), fiction, technology, music, spirituality, philosophy, relationships, sexual experiences, work, travel, politics, porn, their life stories and daily lives… We get to hear our callers’ triumphs and tragedies, when they choose to share them. I’ve had callers contact me after the death of someone close to them, to talk, to vent, to tell the story to someone they knew they never had to censor anything for, and to step outside of all that for an hour or two to let me build a juicy fantasy they could lose themselves in. Sex is life and death; phone sex is no different. When my callers call me, we talk about all of it, and we use our minds, our voices and our nerve endings to thoroughly celebrate being alive.” — SabrinaMorgan

“The imagination has no limitations — phone sex can feel like the perfect sex. Nothing is ever too hard, soft, fast, or slow. In their imaginations, everyone looks just as they would wish and one need not deal with a messy reality. As a result, phone sex has the ability to be more intense than a face-to-face encounter and though it’s fantasy, the vicarious emotion is just as real as the joy or sadness you feel when watching a movie… though, the lump you would otherwise have in your throat will be found a few feet lower for the phone sex call.” — MistressShayna

“I think I am a pretty vanilla type person and attract the same type of person. Usually they have basic types of needs and like to talk about normal day to day things. I am lucky enough to have some very sincere and genuine clients that really just want to enjoy some nice sexy company. Most of my clients are happy just to see me show off for them and enjoy me watching their sexy cams.” — KeiraKensley

“Being a Flirt on NiteFlirt is like a day at the carnival — a roller coaster ride. The adrenaline rush, the excitement, different People I encounter and interact with on a daily basis, exploring new adventures and having a ton of fun at the same time *woot*” — KristaTeases

“A huge selling point is that they don’t have to talk about, be or project anything about their personal lives; especially work. The anonymity of phone sex is the strongest selling point.” — OhsoKinkyCandy

“My customers have all kinds of different tastes, and all kinds of things make them weak – maybe it is the idea of foot worship, or the humiliation of being my ashtray, or the heart-pounding, stomach-dropping thrill of financial domination. There is a consistent theme, though, no matter what the fetish is: My customers want to tell Me their deepest, darkest desires to be controlled and used, with the hope that I will use every bit of that information for my own amusement and pleasure. Aren’t they lucky that I’m so accommodating! — SeducedByJane

“Hmmm…well…most of my customers have an interest in BDSM, or have some other type of fetish they enjoy delving into. Many of my guys like to let go of the control for a while, and let a lady take the lead…even if they don’t know exactly what I’ll do with that control!” — Princess Angel Brat

“My favorite way to guide our conversation is to take My customers deep and then encourage them to talk – without filters or judgement. It is there that I learn their deepest desires and fantasies, which I use to guide their pleasure – and of course Mine as well 😉 — Zusa

“Everything. Just everything. Politics, fetishes, education, work, past experiences, fantasies, families, erotic pleasures, personal goals, the world economy, and, of course, sex!
Our clients seek and expect anonymity and confidentiality. Some of them confide in us their most intimate thoughts and feelings. It’s human nature; it is far easier to confide to a perfect stranger than a best friend. Someone faceless, unknown, on the other end of a telephone connection, who has no reason to judge them, makes it even easier. Bartenders serve much the same function in our mainstream society. With phone sex, there is no need to measure up to someone else’s standards. Here, it doesn’t matter what side of town you were raised on, or what car you drive, or if you weigh 185 or 300, or what color and how thick your hair is. What matters here is what I call “the mind fuck”. Our minds are our most important and potent sexual organ, and capable of intensifying phone sex experiences far beyond what is normally possible in real life.” — SensualSuzannah

“The vast majority of men love to discuss what makes them sexually aroused. Some men never say a word and leave me to keep the conversation going. Some men love the interaction and communication and are very adept at either telling me explicitly what they like sexually or are excellent at giving me clues. Some men are very shy; most are not.” — DominaNY

“The men I talk to are smart and intelligent men, often under stress, who are seeking a woman with My understanding and skill level to help them decompress in the complex ways they enjoy in private… To have someone else make the decisions for a period of time. Sessions range from the occasional, to very long term. From casual, to experiencing deep and intense female led relationships. My patrons like to talk about a broad range of topics. From fetishes both common and uncommon, to seeking advice and insight about the female Dominant lifestyle, to conversations about life in general. From being controlled and told what to do on a basic and sensual level, to having Me manage decisions in their day to day lives. In terms of Domination, the list is endless. Cuckold, tease and denial, financial domination, chastity, foot and high heel fetishes, bi exploration, strap on toys, and all forms of Fem Domme play and Dominatrix related subjects.” — Sabina Erotica

“They like to talk about domination of all kinds — them being dominated that is. Erotic hypnosis is the biggest call request, and while under hypnosis I gear their session to the fetishes they most enjoy. In addition I find guys often just want to talk with me about normal things, not sex, just talk about our lives, this might be the real basis for the real connection that develops between my regular callers and myself. True romance, and deeper friendship!” — Mistress Leslie

“I really have to do my homework, anything from sports to politics to current events. I am a gal who is a Veteran with 2 degrees and a gamer to boot. They like that. A gal with some substance, not just empty fluff. Once in a while sex eventually enters in….lol.” — MistressKate

“I could’ve really narrowed this answer down, had the question been what kinds of things do you not talk about. Sex is, of course, a given… but my conversations go well beyond sex. Fashion, technology, movies, fitness, music, beauty trends, books, astrology signs, education, medicine/health, science, gardening, travel, current news topics, sports, money, interior design, art, museums, their employment, relationship advice, holiday/gift-giving, food/recipes/restaurants and sometimes the simple “I can’t believe this weather we’re having.” — Redhead Fantasee

“As for what my customers want to talk about, here’s I’m surprised by: How little men know about a woman’s sexual libido and how our bodies work — many men think that if I touch my breast I am instantly turned on. How many men ‘expect’ me to cum and feel that is what they are paying for. They want to ‘hear’ my fingers rub my clit. When I ask them what they like to talk about when they call, some just say ‘sex’. I am surprised by how many gay men call me (a woman) to get a release. How many men call me just to tell me what they are wearing. I find it interesting how they like dressing up in the clothes that I hate to wear. They get so excited about wearing a bra, pantyhose and high heals — the three most uncomfortable things I can think of to wear. That there are so many men who DON’T use protection!!” — Anonymous

“Recently, one of my regular callers expressed himself to me: ‘Krista,you are a breath of fresh air and the sunshine of my life. You give me the courage to not be ashamed of my fetish and who I am as a man. It feels as though I’ve known you for years, young lady. You are wise beyond your years. I do not consider you a phone sex escape but a friend.” — KristaTeases