A dominatrix and phone sex operator dishes on Cracked.com about the surprising things she’s learned about fetishes over the years. Even though many people believe that men are straight forward and uncomplicated when it comes to sex, this mistress-dominatrix/phone sex operator knows better: she’s encountered clients who are simply kinky, to others who have bizarre, even outlandish fetishes. Here are this dominatrix’s 3 truths about fetishes:
- Fetishes are not about sex; they’re about sexual fantasies
As a dominatrix, she explains what many people get twisted about BDSM fetishes: there’s no actual sex involved. That would alter the power dynamic and put her, the dominatrix, in a vulnerable position—a turn off for both dom and sub. Instead, a dominatrix’s role is to act out the sub’s sexual fantasies and fetishes. Although many of the fantasies/fetishes involve sex (spanking, whipping, etc.), she does not fuck any of her “slaves.”
- Fetishes have surprisingly little to do with sex
As a phone sex operator and dominatrix she understands that because of internet porn, very few customers want to hear her moaning and talking dirty while they get off—instead, they call to indulge their fetishes with a hot lady who will not judge their kinks and who is game to play whatever twisted, kinky game they like.
- Certain fetishes are very very common
Even though she describes the clients she encounters as having “elaborate [kinky] fantasy worlds” that she helps “guide them through,” she explains that most of her clients have the same fetishes. In particular, there are a lot of guys who like to be feminized (i.e., forced to cross dress) and/or humiliated. She also says that about 75% of her clients have homosexual fantasies—and that most are freaked out by this, even though it’s completely normal to fantasize about a dick in your mouth (again, it can be a turn on because of power, dominance/submission) and, by her accounts, extremely common.
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