Phone Sex Insights: Phone Sex Customers

With its uninhibited free-form expression of pure desires, phone sex is a live-wire connection to the human psyche. By tapping into this live wire, we find fascinating and entertaining stories about human sexuality, imagination, and desire. Since Niteflirt is the largest, most active phone sex community in the world, our members are a treasure trove of such stories. We’ve asked select members of our Flirt community to share some of them, while keeping callers’ identities private of course.

We’ve looked at interesting situations. and what people talk about about. Today we are exploring:

What kind of folks do your phone sex customers tend to be?
“My customers tend to be a bit older very wise, some are married but most are single. I find them to be extremely intelligent and very sweet. Most have a great sense of humor and love diving into creative conversation. The one customer that took me by surprise was a young man of the cloth; I love talking to him because our conversation and fantasies help him keep his vows and makes him feel more confident in the path he has chosen.” — Wicked Elizabeth

“My customers? Well, they’re the guy next door; professors, contractors, attorneys; there are retired gentlemen, married men, single men, and everything in between. They all tend to be creative, open-minded and willing to explore new ideas. They are almost always fun, funny and awesome to talk to!” — Princess Angel Brat

“My customers are consistently highly intelligent and successful people. This makes sense to Me – these are people whose brains work overtime, who need to be in control in many areas of their lives. They call Me because they are so very, very hungry to let go of all of it – to let their minds go quiet and feel my control guide them. I believe that My customers are more powerful in their every day lives because they get to submit to Me.” — Zusa

“My clients are SO diverse, the hot young 20’s looking for that secure older woman, to teach them about sex, to the men in their 60’s who have very strong sex drives, and no one to share it with, and everyone in between. My guys are single, married, straight, gay, bi, and undecided. Some are very imaginative, almost lost in their fantasy world, some are predictable, usually the vanilla sex boys. Most are very polite, the rude ones are few, and that is mainly handled with client management, and asking a few key questions, such as what can I do to make this a good experience for you. My clients professions range from living at home still, to very high powered jobs, and everything in between. The client I was most surprised to come across was a very gay boy, who was mad at his lover, and would ‘cheat’ with girls online to spite him.” — erotica6969

“It depends on the category of my listing. On my housewives listing, I get a lot of cuckolds, men who often truly feel in their hearts that a woman should be worshipped. These are often older, married callers, but not always, either. My mature listing brings in the young man who is curious about the sensual experiences that come with maturity and growth and variety through life. My sex listing gets many callers who are really and truly interested in just getting off, as quickly and intensely as they can. Of course, some are rude and derisive, but most are not. Also, there are widows and widowers who call, missing a spouse who has passed away, who may feel they are too old to re-enter the “dating scene”, or who simply have no real desire to do so, and just need occasional contact. Some are lonely people; some may be missing some tiny little thing in their lives that they can only find here, with us.” — SensualSuzannah

“My clients usually range from all walks of life. Including women as well. Most of my clients are from a white-collar-type job and usually are married with role-play fantasies. I would say on average my clients like role playing above anything else and really take advantage of being able to direct any role play they want without bias or judgement. Since I am a known porn star, I have had several other celebrities visit me as well, which is sometimes a little unexpected but very fun!” — KeiraKensley

“They come from all walks of life, all nationalities, all ages, all levels of education. They are everything from retired and elderly, middle-aged, married, single, very educated, barely literate, and of course, many of them are in a committed relationship in the real world with a woman they truly love. They do not feel they are cheating when they use the services of a phone sex operator and I completely agree. Niteflirt is clearly for entertainment purposes only. People read fiction, watch tv and films about fictional characters and in the sexual arena, men often use phone sex for entertainment and diversion. There is ONLY one thing they all have in common; they LOVE the anonymity/intimacy of phone sex, they have an erection, they have sexual fantasies, they are actively masturbating and many of them tell me they love me and I always encourage that. 99% of my callers are respectful. They know that whatever kind of call I’m doing my REAL agenda is to make them happy, relieve stress, fulfill fantasies in a safe, sane, consensual and fun way. I have also had very long conversations over the years with various callers about books, travel, music, their lives, my life, their emotional problems, their psychological needs. I think a world-class phone sex operator is the person a man turns to for intimacy and with whom he can completely let his hair down and reveal his innermost feelings without fear of rejection.” — DominaNY

“I seem to draw fellow (as I proudly am one) nerds. I don’t hide the fact that I’m a gamer girl/played D&D and still participate in arenas similar to that (so they seem to like the fact I can talk something in their world besides “sex”) They tend to be intelligent, creative men that are good at what they do (whatever it is, many work for themselves or are entrepreneur types) The least expected customer is the sissy factor (because I find sissies can sure bring the drama! haha, but I <3 em!)” — That Sexy Woman

“My clients run the full age spectrum from 18 to 80, and I’ve seen a mix of backgrounds, orientations and even gender identities. About 1/3 to 1/2 of my callers at any given time are married or in a serious relationship; the others are single, divorced, or widowed. The clients who gravitate towards me definitely seem to be creative, imaginative types – generally very polite and genuinely kind (even the sadists!), sometimes nervous, sometimes outgoing, always interesting. Because I focus on tactile fetishes such as stockings/pantyhose, lingerie, and satin, many of my clients tend to be both sensually and mentally focused and very open to exploration. I seem to attract a lot of professors, creative professionals, IT/IS types, and entrepreneurial sorts for some reason, and I wonder if that’s common to phone sex as a whole or Niteflirt in particular. My callers and I have a lot of fun together letting our ids out to play.” — SabrinaMorgan

“I once had a customer tell me he watched me for a year before he got up the nerve to call! He was very pleased with how well it went and regrets not calling sooner.” — MistressSherryElizabeth

“My callers tend to be men who have been around a bit and they’re looking for an experience that they are not accustomed to – they also tend to be submissive or fetishistic but respectful guys who read the fine print. These are the guys who prefer story erotica to visual porn. I don’t necessarily think that makes someone a more enlightened human being, but it’s what I glean when I ask this question to them. I have an oddly high percentage of IT professionals, from help desk entry level to CTO’s among my callers, not sure if there’s meaning behind that. Ages range, races range, nationalities range (yay skype) and I do have a handful of full-time-girl transgender callers so even gender ranges as well.” — Hypnotic Domme

“My customers are always polite- I am very clear about how My customers need to obey when they serve Me. However, in terms of life circumstances, they run a complete range. There’s the 21 year olds who are so hungry for My strap-on, and the 70 year olds who feel dizzy and thrilled at the thought of groveling for Me. It is good to be an equal opportunity user and abuser of men…” — SeducedByJane

“Their professions are everything from university professor, doctors, psychiatrists, lawyers, to truck drivers on the road, unemployed people on disability, students, There is no “typical” man who uses the services of phone sex. It’s a universally embraced, world-wide phenomenon that is not completely acceptable in “polite” society, yet very much a part of millions of men’s lives all over the world.” — DominaNY

“A portion of My clients are high profile, and sometimes highly public men. These men seek a way to decompress in private, and Niteflirt is an extremely discreet and professional platform for them to use. This is important for them and their reputation. Complete discretion is key with Me and the callers I interact with. My clients tend to be ambitious successful men in their mid 30’s to mid 40’s and beyond — men who have reached the age where they have fulfilled all of society’s obligations (education, career, home, wife) and are at that stage in life when they start to seek the things they personally enjoy. Executives, CEOs, financiers, doctors, attorneys, politicians, accountants, information technology (IT), music and film industry men to name just a few.” — Sabina Erotica

“Men who like to be humiliated and called names. Men who think they are too small and they want women to laugh at them. I made a recording for a man who liked hearing a woman blow her nose. Men who liked to tickle women. Men who like to beat up their penis with a whip until it is swollen and bruised. Men who are wanting to be women and get pregnant.” — Anonymous

“My customers tend to be smart, confident men, who are missing something from their real lives. They want a woman with a dominant edge. They tend to be 30-65 about 90% of the time, but men younger do slip in there for that other 10%. They tend to be brighter then average, successful, creative, polite, and well spoken. They are lawyers, doctors, business owners, science based jobs, social work, professors, sales, and creative professions.” — Mistress Leslie

“My customers go from one end of the spectrum to the other. I think I must be at the perfect age, as I seem to appeal to younger men who like direction and older men who know how to treat a lady. As for their professions: military, students, attorneys, nurses, truck drivers, businessmen, firemen, stay-at-home dads, police officers, manufacturers, photographers. I do not think it would be fair to any of my clients to label them as ‘predictable’ — with each customer and each call the dynamics of our relationships are in a state of constant flux. I approach every call as an opportunity for exploration, both theirs and my own.” — Redhead Fantasee